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· One min read
Ron Amosa

"Strong ideas, loosely held" is a concept revisiting my lexicon.

They say you should "find your tribe", but what do you do when you've searched high and low, far and wide, and you still haven't found them?

You travel alone.

"Let people be themselves" is another phrase I've heard lately that resonates with how we travel in this life.

Instead of persuading people to be something you want, or you yourself becoming someone you're not- if you haven't found your tribe (yet) despite doing what you can to see and be seen by them, then you are where you're meant to be-

And you travel alone.

I know people need people, we're social animals.

So, travelling alone is a strong idea in the moment.

I don't mind holding it loosely.

· 2 min read
Ron Amosa

After reading "Deep Work" by Cal Newport, and revisiting "The Social Dilemma" after, the two ideas that come together from these two pieces of work are the following:

The distraction machine that is social media and most technology, on the surface at least, provides very little real value per person. The attention concentration of billions of superficial and unremarkable human signals, coalesce into one very overpriced and sub-par experience.

Repeated, and replicated over and over again.

There's nothing new on social media, the emails and notifications of the same tired half-arse of a human experience, are not anything we haven't seen a gazillion times before. Sure, the colours and resolution of this clickbait and outrage-inducer is of a higher, sharper quality, but the content- the subject matter? Zzzzzzzz.

The alternative...

· 2 min read
Ron Amosa

This could also have been called "The Pain of Knowing".

When you've experienced something, you've lived it. You know how it went, how it felt, deeper than any words could ever express the full experience of having done "the thing".

"There's something to be said for experience" is a phrase any young people coming into the work force may be able to relate to. Because the experience is what they're lacking and usually leads the young person missing out on an opportunity.

But there is something to be said for experience.

Once you've experienced something (and YMMV), you "know" that thing.

Knowing isn't necessarily something you can put in words, or writing, but it's part of you now, like your DNA. And if you come across that situation again, something inside you will resonate with the external experience and call on the wisdom, that "knowing" to serve you in that moment.

All this to say, experience is valuable in ways a lot of people don't fully understand and keeps being the differentiator between the doors that open to you, and the ones that don't.

So however you can get it, the pain of doing needs to be got out there, and done.

· 2 min read
Ron Amosa

The internal monologue.

The narrative, the characters and plot.

The decisions and reasons for one action over another, or lack of reasoning all together. Still a reason, but lacking intentionality, lacking purpose.

We tell ourselves little stories, all the time. All. The. Time.

There's never not a time when we are not part of a storyline of our own doing, or a side character in someone else's story they're telling themselves.

· One min read
Ron Amosa

Dave Chappelle was addressing students at Allen University...

"This idea that what you do in your lifetime informs the generation that comes after you is something I keep thinking about"

Obviously we can think from ourselves foward, and be all "be a good example for the next generation".

But so too we can think of about what our grandparents did with their lives, informed my parents generation who, what and why the world was, which ultimately fed into who we are and how we thought of ourselves.

I don't like public speaking- not really- I can do it, I'm good at it I know that, but I don't really like it.

But the idea, that if I get up and speak on some things, and be visible for a generation of people who look like me, that the act will inform this next generation, of who, what and why the world is- is not something to be disregarded lightly.

Tautua, in Samoan means "to serve" or to be "of service".

My mum taught me this through action.

So if not for the legacy that I might leave behind...

then for the legacy that paved the way for me.

· One min read
Ron Amosa

Having goals and stretching yourself makes life worthwhile, exciting, challenging and fulfilling.

But if it costs you, a measure of enjoyment you could never have, before of after the pursuit of these goals- what is the point exactly?

This is not a question to be answered by anyone, and there's nothing wrong with the question. It needs to be asked. And then, you will need to really look at the whole picture, and answer it.

It's not to say, don't pursue. Or even, don't extend.

It's just saying, long term thinking will steady your course.

And in it, find humility for an ongoing and imperfect journey towards the end.

Don't burn out.

· One min read
Ron Amosa

Life is a series of trade off's you would do well to get good at.

Knowing the weighted value of every action, interaction and opportunity.

They don't all weigh the same, and the weight:value ratio is subjective at best.

Do your best.

· One min read
Ron Amosa

"If you have rights and no responsibility, you get entitlement. If you have responsibility and no rights, you get enslavement."

Wanting the benefit, or advantage, privilege without the hard or messy part might be chalked up to human nature (I might disagree). But the "path of least resistence" behaviour never leads anywhere worth being.

Time and again we will see examples of what people turn into when they get everything they want, easily and immediately.

· One min read
Ron Amosa

If it sucks, it sucks. It might not be your best work, it's probably not going to be great. But you'll do your best, you'll work as hard as you need to, and it will get done. Don't worry so much about it, nobody's going to die.

· One min read
Ron Amosa

Jaron Lanier said this on a podcast

"Perpectual annoyance is the cost of freedom". (or something to this effect)

He goes on to explain that people are annoying, and that true freedom isn't about doing whatever you want and avoiding people. It's about what you're able to do, in communion- however annoying that may be- with people.

People who want to take the "politics" out of every day society tend to be the people who try to take the "people" out of society (at least, the ones they don't like).

So be wary of these types of people.